Most men fear that vibrators will replace the intimate connection they share with their partners. But if the relationship has been active for a few years, vibrators may actually improve their sex life.
It’s the old, old story – a couple married for years is now so used to the sights and rhythms of each other’s bodies that sex is simply a weekly chore to tick off the To-Do list. He stares at the cushion covers as he rides her, she stares up at the ceiling and dreams of George Clooney. The magic and frenzied passion that they shared in the early stages of their relationship is all but dead. Now, sex is just a task they complete because they have to.
We are sorry to hear if this is your story, too. But you can change this state of affairs quite easily – all is not lost yet, but you have to commit to making a change. After all, the pleasure of sex lies in trying something new all the while, or else the act becomes mechanical and boring. It’s not just about trying new positions or places to have sex in, either – how about if you tried a vibrator?
The vibrator story
Vibrators are sex toys designed to provide clitoral stimulation. However, they may be used anywhere on the body, especially on the erogenous zones to provide pleasure during or before sex. These sex toys are battery operated and provide different speeds, so you can adjust them as per your liking.
But though they help women discover new realms of pleasure, vibrators have long been a bone of contention amongst couples. Men are often suspicious of them, believing that a woman using a vibrator is not in need of penile penetration to feel pleasure. In that sense, they think, the vibrator replaces a man in the bedroom. Several women, too, feel that vibrators are used only by single women who are not sexually active, or who do not have sexual partners.
However, vibrators are so much more than just sex toys that help a woman orgasm. This is why you need to use a vibrator, especially if you are feeling jaded with your bedroom activities:
- A vibrator helps build repeated tension in the genital area, which is released in a torrent of pleasure that satiates the user.
- In many ways, a vibrator can bring about better orgasms and improve your response to clitoral and vaginal stimulation.
- As a woman, you understand the different erogenous zones of your body and the exact amount of stimulation you need, with the use of a vibrator. Thus, it helps you understand your body and its rhythms which you may not be able to tap with your usual sex routine.
- There are different types of vibrators from leading brands like Durex, that are designed to provide clitoral and G-spot stimulation. Meanwhile, Durex also retails vibrating rings with ‘devil heads’ – the ring is for the man’s use while the devil heads provide clitoral stimulation to the woman. Thus, both partners can have a thrilling sexual experience.
Men, take note…
Vibrators are not a man’s enemy. If anything, this is a sex toy that can bring a man much closer to a woman, since he is able to get more clues on what makes her ‘tick’. There is no reason why she should use the vibrator only when she is alone – a man can use it on her, and observe how she reacts to its pressure on her genitals and other parts of the body. This leads to more intimacy between the partners, with an increased knowledge of how to pleasure her.
Besides, a woman who is turned on by a vibrator can orgasm much better. Thus, sex becomes a much more exciting proposition than before – the woman is more receptive to penile stimulation and the couple can also use vibrating rings to try and climax at the same time. If using a vibrator during sex, the man can enter the woman from behind while she stimulates her clitoris with the sex toy – this brings about a shuddering release.
This class of sex toy is available online and it is quite easy to use as well. Vibrating rings can also be used with condoms, though care must be taken to see that the condom does not tear when the ring is slipped on. They are waterproof and can be washed after every use for better hygiene. It is recommended that the sex toy be washed thoroughly with disinfectant if it is used with multiple partners.
Vibrators and vibrating rings may be used for up to 30 minutes of pulsating, quivering pleasure that ends in shattering climax.
So give vibrators a chance – and watch the sparks fly once again in the bedroom!
